Let’s discuss a few tips to help you recognize Mr/Mrs Right.
The first tip is....Err...I’m just kidding....I don’t have any.....zilch....nothing! But wait, all hope is not lost, I know where you can find all the tips you will ever need.
It’s in your HEART.
The thing is, most times we look for tips when we are not sure, when our hearts are in doubt, when we can see the signs but we prefer to shut our minds to reasoning.
I have heard a lot of girls say "all men are the same" but I don’t think that’s true. That’s a rather unfair statement. I mean, all? Really? Have you been with all? So how then do you draw your conclusions? This also goes for the men who feel they can generalize when it comes to women and just think women all act the same and want the same things. If women were all the same, shouldn’t there be a common formula by now on how to handle every woman? Shouldn’t men be out of their misery already in trying to understand women? Should books on handling relationships still be amongst the best sellers? If we are all the same, then there should be nothing new, no new books, no new problems, and you shouldn’t be reading articles and looking for tips to guide you in the right path when it comes to dating.
when next you think we are all the same, remember that the communion of man and woman has been for a long time now, still, no perfect formula, people still have questions and someone, somewhere, right now, is writing a book titled "understanding your partner" or one of those other cheesy but catchy titles.
So if the books haven’t helped, the facilitators are still speaking and no results, the tips haven’t done a good job, why are we still going after these things? I once read a quote that said "insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting a different result". Why then would we rather relish in the claws of insanity than take the right path?
The heart tells you when things aren’t going on well, when something is not right, when he/she is just not into you but often times we prefer to go with the short term sweetness of the flow rather than open our eyes to the truth and embrace the "tips" our hearts give us.
I’m no expert on relationships, as a matter of fact, I’m far from perfect but I’ve learnt to listen to the bitter truths of my heart than the sweet nothings of the flow. We really don’t need tips. We know the truth!!
Take violence/abuse for instance, do ladies at this time still not know that it’s wrong? Will they sincerely listen to their hearts and feel at peace? The answer is NO! But the guy is too fine, he's rich, he apologizes after, he really didn’t mean it, he loves me and that's how he shows it, abusers never cheat, he will change….we just go on with the list of lies we tell ourselves forgetting that the greatest form of deceit is self-deceit.
Maybe we are too scared to face the truth, maybe we are unsure of what will come if we let go, but trust me, there is always that one person in which your heart has full confidence and experiences true peace. That one person that wouldn’t make you search out tips on the internet, that one person that when your friends ask you “why do you love him/her” you just don’t know why, but you know your heart is telling you this is the right place, the place where you belong, the place you can call home.
we are all learners when it comes to love, I think God intended it to be that way till the end of time, but it will be much easier if we would harken to the still small voice that tries to speak to us every time.
However, if you are still looking for tips please feel free to ask Google!!
I will jorrr lol
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